I want to get an orgasm

But they exist, and with a little awareness and attention, you can get the Os you deserve, from the fireworks-on-display kind to the calm oh-my-gods. When you find yourself missing out on the Big O, there are three likely culprits: expectations, communication, and method. And alongside all of that, experimenting is required. The clitoris is a small organ with a lot of nerve endings that peeks out from the tiptop of the vulva, is often covered by a hood, and extends down the inside of the labia.

It could be clitoral, vaginal, even cervical — or a mix of all three. Direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris can lead to a clitoral orgasm. Your fingers, palm, or a small vibrator can all help you have a clitoral orgasm. When you feel your pleasure intensify, apply even more pressure to the motion to take yourself over the edge.

Despite the vagina-having characters on TV orgasming after mere seconds of penetration, the reality is only 18 percent of cis-women can actually reach orgasm during penetrative sex alone. Which means the other 82 percent hi, it me! The answer? Absolutely nothing.

Achieving an orgasm can be elusive for a lot of women. But it can be as simple as time, tenderness, and knowing how to stimulate her sweet spots. Bringing a woman to orgasm has little to do with pornographic skills. The key is spending more time on foreplay and learning about the two spots that, when stimulated, can lead to a female orgasm. It also doesn't hurt to understand which sexual positions provide the best chance for orgasm.